Last week our BLM Founder Leslie Hendricks Young posed a question about what type of teasing you want to shield your kids from or help them understand. Right now dealing with my kids there are two things that come to mind. Loving Yourself and Being Yourself.
This weekend as my 3 year old pranced around the house in my shoes, I realized how much I want her to love herself and never be influenced by what others think. When I look at her, she’s built like me. A 3 year old with thick legs, hips, a booty and solid as a rock. Thick hair, full of personality, and just as happy as she wants to be.
When I was around 5 I became self conscious about wearing skirts cause boys used to look up my dress. They joked that I had baseball bat legs because my calfs were so thick. And from there the self esteem issues began. I don’t think I put a skirt back on until I was 16, unless I was forced.
I want her to own and wear her confidence and love for self until the wheels fall off. She already has a sense of style and if she could, she would rock that bush to school. But who knows what would come back home in it. Lol
Now my son is very sensitive and loving. Although as he’s getting older he tries putting on this hard exterior. I really want him to never lose being sensitive, loving and considerate. This is something too many men fight or hide because they feel it makes you less of a man. To me, a man being in touch with his feelings is better than a man not dealing with his feelings at all. We all have to learn to balance our male and female energy. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion and being true about your feelings. So I pray that growing older and peer pressure doesn’t make him change who he is.
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” Elizabeth Stone