Last week our BLM Founder Leslie Hendricks Young posed a question about what type of teasing you want to shield your kids from or help them understand. Right now dealing with my kids there are two things that come to mind. Loving Yourself and Being Yourself.
This weekend as my 3 year old pranced around the house in my shoes, I realized how much I want her to love herself and never be influenced by what others think. When I look at her, she’s built like me. A 3 year old with thick legs, hips, a booty and solid as a rock. Thick hair, full of personality, and just as happy as she wants to be.
When I was around 5 I became self conscious about wearing skirts cause boys used to look up my dress. They joked that I had baseball bat legs because my calfs were so thick. And from there the self esteem issues began. I don’t think I put a skirt back on until I was 16, unless I was forced.
I want her to own and wear her confidence and love for self until the wheels fall off. She already has a sense of style and if she could, she would rock that bush to school. But who knows what would come back home in it. Lol
Now my son is very sensitive and loving. Although as he’s getting older he tries putting on this hard exterior. I really want him to never lose being sensitive, loving and considerate. This is something too many men fight or hide because they feel it makes you less of a man. To me, a man being in touch with his feelings is better than a man not dealing with his feelings at all. We all have to learn to balance our male and female energy. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion and being true about your feelings. So I pray that growing older and peer pressure doesn’t make him change who he is.
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” Elizabeth Stone
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I’ve loved that quotation since the very first time I read it. And yes ma’am, your princess has tons of style and confidence already. =) Great job so far!
I agree with your desire for your children. I have a son who is almost two and I couldn’t agree with you more. His dad has a tough exterior. I want so badly for my son to stay in touch with his feelings and emotions instead of pretending they’re not there. Great post!
They are adorable! I think your desires for them are on point! Keep up the good work!
*tears* you are a great mom and are doing an awesome job at raising some incredibly smart, kind and well-rounded children !
I’m so in love with my neice & nephew..:-D
Great post. I love that you have taken the time to acknowledge that at some point in life we will all be self concious about something about ourselves but with great parenting skills we can overcome that and just love for who we are. This post reminds me of teachings from my mother. Seriously I remember a specific time when I was feeling self conscious about a shirt at about 9 years old and my mom totally changed my behavior but what she told me. Love, love, love this!